i checked there, thats where i got the info from but they only have
AIM 4.8.2790 --> offset for the yellow hi-lite color is at 0x0000F444 AIM 4.8.2790 --> Buddy name text color: color they use (the black) is 01 01 01, find SECOND instance of that value in the BUDDYUI.OCM file, change it.
but they dont have the background color, that is more of what i am intrested in. does anyone know it? thatnx in advanced
if no one in either of the two places can help you, then your best bet would be to do what eremite said. go grab a hex editor (xvi32 is a nice freeware app that gets the job done), open up buddyui.ocm, and prepare yourself for an arseload of trial-and-error testing. good luck.